In the old days, no-one I knew ever used their parent's given names when talking to or about them.

Ethelbert's Parenting Advice

Another thin I sure-nuff can tell ye,
what's wrong with this here world today:
children should refer to their parents
in a decent, acceptable way.

Mother 'n Father's right proper;
even Ma or Paw 'll sur-fice;
and when the young-uns is little
Mommy 'n Daddy sounds nice.

But there ain't a one of my children;
not a one of my children a'tawl,
ever called me out-loud by my first name,
or tried a sim-u-lar stunt with their ma.

For that there is disrespectful
of a parent's position in life.
Why, I ain't no Tom, Dick nor Harry,
and neither f'shor is my wife!

So don't let me hear of sech nonsense
as "We'll let our children decide."
Familiarity breeds contempt;
an' that's sumpin' I will not abide!

Next poem: Ethelbert’s Advice on Writing Poetry

Author: Jerry Dan Deutschendorf
from: Red Earth Whisperings
Part II: The Old Timer